I really like choosing a word of the year rather than a New Year’s Resolution. For this year’s word, I have chosen Flourish.
“To choose to flourish is an intentional act to increase your well-being in a profound way, improve your health and extend your longevity. Now imagine choosing flourish as your daily word for 2017 to anchor your life and sense of purpose. To choose to flourish is a bold affirmation of your life and continued emergence as a person.” Robert V. Taylor
The article recommends putting the word in a place you will see daily or even making your passwords include the word flourish. As soon as I finish writing this piece today I am going to tape my sign to my bathroom mirror. Next I am thinking I should read these recommended books: Martin E.P. Seligman, “Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Wellbeing,” (Simon and Schuster, New York, 2011), Kelly McGonigal, “The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More Of It.” (Avery, New York 2013) and Robert V. Taylor’s “A New Way to Be Human” (New Page Books).
I have never thought of the word Flourish with regard to mindfulness thought but rather to do with a garden. It is interesting to picture my life, my soul and my emotions not happy but rather flourishing. Just think, some things grow better in their own unique environment rather than in other environments. I significantly changed my environment over these past few years and without noticing or putting my finger on it and at times mislabeling it happiness, I was flourishing. Now I will notice and now I will practice the determined life of mindfully creating an environment to flourish.
New Year’s Day, President’s Day and Valentine’s Day have all come and gone.
My yard is showing signs of little green sprouts popping up and I even wore flip-flops today. And now, I am ready to take New Year’s resolutions to a new level. Restlessness had been creeping in for the last few weeks. Actually, truth be told, I flirt with it off and on all the time. Today I cleaned off my desk and found an activity that I had printed from the one of the dozens, (no hundreds), of Life Coach, Facebook, Make Your Life More Purpose Driven sites. For some reason this one had grabbed me. I decided to take a few minutes and go through the exercise. Yes, you heard me right. “Take a Few Minutes!” In just a few minutes, I could fill something out and sort out my life plan. Figure out the word, the theme, the thing that would make the rest of this year better. Of course that whole notion is silly. I was silly. But wouldn’t it be wonderful if I could finally sort myself out as quickly as possible?
So here is me, and maybe a lot of you can relate to this too.
I stare at the page for a few minutes and can’t for the life of me answer the first question on the first page! “Name Your Theme for 2016_________”. Thank goodness for Google. My mind is blank. I just have to have a theme. A perfect theme, because I always have to have the right answer. I will just google personal themes. Surprise! There are lots of people doing the same thing. This led me on a whole journey all afternoon chasing one website to another that listed inspirational words, the one word, the one feeling. Where have I been? This has been going on for years. People choose a theme or a word and focus on that word all year instead of a New Year’s resolution. It made so much sense! It creates so much focus and I do believe you can manifest things to happen in your life so why not. But I can’t pick a word. I pulled up lists and lists of words.
You see I retired when I was 58. I was pretty sure I knew what I wanted to do. I spent a lot of time and money working on it and then just stalled out. At the same time, my personal life went haywire. That is a whole ‘nuther topic. Two year more years went by and I neither went ahead with what I thought I wanted to do, or moved where I thought I wanted to move, nor do I know any of those things now.
What I found in my search for the “one word” was that I couldn’t seem to decide a thing. I have saved web searches going 4 years back regarding where I want to retire and still no decision there at all. So my word is “Resolute”.
admirably purposeful, determined, and unwavering.
“she was resolute and unswerving”
||determined, purposeful, resolved, adamant, single-minded, firm,unswerving, unwavering, steadfast, staunch, stalwart, unfaltering,unhesitating, persistent, indefatigable, tenacious, strong-willed,unshakable.
It may be late February, but word and theme for the year will be resolute. I have decided to decide.